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I was just wondering if anyone has had the experience where AP worked perfectly for you and your first child, but the second child seems to have different needs and it doesn't work as well. I believe strongly that parents need to adapt to the needs of their babies and I have tried to avoid strategies I felt were not natural, but I am finding that my second baby is changing my views on what is natural (at least for her). I am curious if anyone else has had such dramatically different children.
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Re: first child/second child differences
Tue, July 8, 2008 - 4:18 PMI think you're right. Some kids just want & need different things. My first and second had very different personalities, though both were happy with the AP approach. -
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Re: first child/second child differences
Wed, July 9, 2008 - 3:10 PMMy second has actually taken much more to the nursing, wearing approach than my first took to it. My first was much more into to knowing I was there, but not seeming to "need" me as much physically as my second child has done. So, I would reccomend doing what works with the baby. Of course, I do not suggest scheduling or regimenting or anything like that. But I think you are going with your baby's flow, even if it's not what you expected. You'll do great, I'm certain -
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Re: first child/second child differences
Wed, July 9, 2008 - 4:57 PMThank you for sharing your experiences. She is 8 months old and I have dealt with not breastfeeding, not carrying her and now she doesn't like to co sleep. I was feeling depressed and I just have to remember that she is just telling me what she wants and needs. Like yours, she likes me near her, but not necessarily holding or cuddling her all of the time. It is just so different from our first who at age 4 still loves to co sleep.
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