Xiomara -- sounds like a balanced approach you have there.

It is all learning.

Admittedly, I've raised the roof too many times in frustration. I've worked really hard to not go there -- it is sheer frustration, or embarassment, and often other daily issues that raise the boiling point.

It is good to know that others fall into the same trap. And good to know that we don't have to fall for it. I was a bit concerned reading this, that it might be another good reason for parents to feel shame or guilt over things that every parent does. That's not helpful either.